Sunday, January 31, 2010

Doubles puking

The boys decided to try a new sport tonight - doubles puking.

Here are our tweets from after clean-up:

9:10 Wil: crying, says "I'm sick!" then proceeds to puke on the floor & in the tub. 9:15 Sam starts crying then pukes in his bed.

Just had stereo puking from Wil & Sam. A thing of gross glory it was. Cleanup complete and boys re-settled. Parents still in shellshock.

Hopefully it's short-lived and they don't have any problems through the rest of the night. Wil was very upset he threw up on the floor (he's neat-nick) so we told him if he felt like throwing up again, he should try to get to the tub. Really, we weren't mad, but he thought we would be. That's what carpet cleaners are for. 

Tuesday, January 26, 2010

A certain kind of crazy

Those of us with kids less than two years apart are considered a certain kind of crazy - as in you'd have to be crazy to do it. I don't know. I think any spacing requires a certain kind of crazy. A big spacing takes the kind of crazy willing to go back to sleepless nights and diapers after getting used to freedom again, for example. And ours will hopefully ease up as the boys get a little older.

It is hard in the beginning with kids so close in age. Two sizes of diapers, two nap schedules, a lot of dependence. But as they are getting older, they are playing together more and aren't so far apart on development levels. They may even potty train together since Wil seems reluctant and Sam wants to do what Wil does. They play with a lot of the same toys now and Wil isn't so far ahead that he resents Sam.

Growing up, there were 3 1/2 years (4 grades) between me and my sister. We didn't have much in common and were at different stages at different times. /there's no guarantee that our boys will be close just because they are close in age, but it's something we can hope will happen. And the crazy is easing up now that Sam is 18 months old.

And a side note: For me, the bigger adjustment was going from 0 to 1 kid (huge life-style change!) than from 1 to 2 kids. I know a lot of people say it's the opposite, but once you have 1, figuring out how to get out of the house with 2 is not as hard. You just do it because you have to. I was much more prepared regarding what I needed to bring with, naptimes, feedings, diaper changes, etc, despite the challenges of corralling 2 while doing all that, the second time around.

Saturday, January 23, 2010

Love and marriage

A friend recently posted this link showing that more states allow marriage between 1st cousins than same-sex couples, including Indiana. Before a great controversy erupts, I verified Indiana marriage law which is that under normal circumstances, the closest relatives who may marry are 2nd cousins. The exception for 1st cousins is that both must be at least 65 years of age. 

But the whole thing, along with Indiana's passing SJR-13, which would add a ban on gay marriage (already illegal under Indiana law) to the state Constitution if it passes a voter referendum in November, got me thinking about marriage issues.

It seems that some of the current arguments against allowing gay marriage (without getting into religious arguments) stem from procreation. It goes something like this: the point of marriage is to have children and gays can't have children (under strictly biological circumstances) so they shouldn't get married.

To show how ridiculous this argument is, I present the following:

1) If the sole purpose of marriage is procreation, the following should not be allowed to marry either:
                * post-menopausal women
                * infertile/sterile men or women (whether by choice or biology)
                * the elderly
                * anyone who does not plan to have kids
1b) In addition, a contract to produce at least 1 child within a certain time limit would need to be part of the marriage procedure or the marriage would have to be invalidated.

2) Many, many, people procreate without benefit of marriage, so marriage is obviously not required to have children. Do we need to institute licenses to have kids?

3) If the groups listed above have other reasons to get married than producing children, don't these same reasons apply to ANY couple wanting to get married?
                * Love (to me, the #1 reason)
                * Legal benefits including, but not limited to, insurance, medical visitation, inheritance
                * Whatever other reasons people have

That's pretty much the basis of my argument. 

For the record, I don't think this is the slippery slope to allowing marriage with animals (hello, make marriage dependent on both parties being human!). I don't think two men or two women marrying has anything to do with my own marriage or will somehow cheapen it. I think divorce is the real threat to marriage. I think allowing gay marriage might actually alleviate some current issues by expanding health coverage to more individuals (via their spouse). 

Wednesday, January 6, 2010

Two good things in one

I have to share this link to some really cool cupcakes. What could be better than cupcakes decorated like games? Now I want a cupcake and I want to play some of the games depicted. Can we say game night?

Friday, January 1, 2010

Happy new year

Well, our year has to be better than it has started - with Sam puking in the middle of the night. Hopefully this isn't a harbinger of the year to come. This should be a good year. The boys are getting bigger and more independent.

I'm too tired to post more now, but we'll have to post some goals later.